My husband makes me feel like an incompetent child. What should I do?

I am easygoing and laid back. He gets tense about things that I don't. For instance, today I wanted to open a vent above our leather chairs. I stood on the chair, gently leaned my knee against the back of the chair to reach the high vent. He freaked out saying I would break the back of the chair if I leaned on it too hard. This is just one example, but this sort of thing happens constantly and it is wearing me down. He doesn't like the way I stack the pots because they are in disarray in the cabinet so he fusses about that. I park his car too close to the curb and he freaks out saying it will scratch the front of his car. When I take a shower before him he fusses that I got the bathroom too wet. I get hot at night but he doesn't like it when I turn the air down too low. I try to tell him that the way he speaks to me hurts my feelings but he says I shouldn't have done those things in the first place because he wouldn't have. I try not to be careless but am starting to feel like an idiot